However, it remains a special stage for her, she makes her feel happy, despite the long waiting period, these feelings are natural feelings that most mothers feel, but the paradox lies with some who do not experience motherhood after the situation, despite their feeling of her during pregnancy today,
The world holds its annual celebration of Mother’s Day, “Emirates Today” raises the question of motherhood from an unconventional angle, and from the experiences of mothers who did not experience this feeling.
A lost feeling
Sirin M, who put her child, did not feel a caesarean section that the child who was born was her son. “The process was very difficult, and its pain is many, and my child needed to be placed in the incubator due to health problems he suffered from birth, and this prompted the nurses to take it from the first moment,
I did not see him until 24 hours after the birth. .
As for the stage of pregnancy, Sirin asserts that it was a normal stage that she lived like any woman waiting for her baby impatiently, and she says, “I never felt that this will be my situation after birth, I lived a normal pregnancy phase that included all the feelings of psychological pressure and mood swings Because of the physical change,
Likewise, because of the many pains that I was exposed to, although I was feeling during pregnancy that I was not in my natural condition and this was bothering me, but I was happy with a joy when my son was moving in my guts, and I also enjoyed his singing for him, talking to him and communicating with him.
“This period did not last for a long time, after weeks passed and before the first month after the situation, I started to feel my son, especially after the breastfeeding, which he considered one of the happiest moments that I lived after birth,” she added.
But she continues without forgetting the role of her husband, “my husband’s feeling of paternity, supported me and formed the main supporter for me to deal with this stage, and skip her to reach the feeling of the finest and highest meanings of life, which is the feeling of motherhood.”
The opportunity to adapt
As for (MA), who gave birth to her first child at the age of 27, Sirin shared the opinion, as she lived a similar experience in terms of birth, “My birth was a cesarean section, and I do not think that it is easy for the woman to put her child and do not see him at the same moment.”
“I feel that the feeling of motherhood needs time and not born at the same moment, so I remedied the topic and gave myself the opportunity to adapt to my new situation so that I can enjoy the presence of my child until I gradually assaulted him and I do not think that today I differ from other mothers.” Various feelings for cesarean delivery experiences,
It was the experience of (Mona A.), which is the mother of two children, completely different, and explains her to us saying, “I put my child through two natural children, and I did not test the same feelings in the two births; My first child saw him immediately after the situation and even before the nurses wash him, and I swallowed to my heart feelings in which happiness mixed with amazement, this child is part of me, he is my son »,
She continues to describe her feelings, saying, “I do not think that this joy can be described, as I felt that my love for my child was cursed in my heart from this moment, but the feeling itself did not experience it with my second child even though the birth was normal as well. ,
“My birth for my second son was difficult and I was very tired, to the extent that I was hidden immediately after the situation, and I did not see my son until after I woke up for hours, and this is an impact on my love for him, and it cannot be said that I was not attracted to him or I did not feel it, but I am sure that my feelings were different About the feelings that I tested with my first son »,
She assures me that the difference that I noticed in feelings during childbirth is still continuing with it to this day, “I still feel that there is a difference between my two sons, and it is not the big difference but I feel it.”
Emotional response
“Natural cases confirm the emotional response to every woman with the new baby, so the lack of the emotional side indicates a psychological or mental imbalance in the mother.”
He explains to us the nature of motherhood, saying, “The nature of motherhood drives a woman to live a state of joy and extreme emotional response with the newly born child, but it is not possible to deny the existence of some cases where there is no feeling of response to the mother.”
Al -Harjani attributes these cases that some mothers “are exposed to what is known as postpartum depression, which leads to the mother’s joy in the new baby, or the family problems, or marital disputes, or the mother’s feeling that the child is a burden on the family from things that prevent the feeling Mother with her child »,
Therefore, the feelings that infiltrate the mother’s heart are “the inability to provide proper material and social care for the child, and contradictory feelings are mixed with them that combine the joy of motherhood and great sadness.”
Another case that affects some mothers is “postpartum psychosis”, which, according to Dr. Harjani, is a mental disorder that prevents the mother from realizing the surrounding environment, as the situation may reach some of them to deny the mother of the child.
Hind is one of the forms of madness, so it must be dealt with as a mental illness that must be treated with the psychiatrist who would help the mother overcome her ordeal.
As for the effect of cesarean delivery in the mother’s feeling of her child, Al -Harajani confirmed that “the studies did not indicate a specific impact of this, and with regard to the mother’s emotion towards her son, the cases that she mentioned earlier may include normal and cesarean deliveries.”
Care and support
Al -Harjani pointed out that the child in this case “will not enjoy full and sufficient emotional and physical care, because the mother will not be able to provide her because of her rejection of him.” So it is the duty of the mother here to “make additional efforts to provide a healthy family atmosphere for the child, so that he does not feel short.”
As for the real support that helps women overcome the situation, it does not lie in the psychological therapy that some cases may need, only, as “the husband has an important role” according to Al -Harrajani, “The husband plays a major role in overcoming the problems that the mother may be exposed to, as he is able to Standing her side and support.
“The mother, given the positive aspects of her life with her new child, not thinking about the negative aspects, this helps her to overcome feelings of depression.”
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