“A day as if it is a year”, a common expression that calls for a sense of slowness in the slow rhythm of time in the absence of loved ones, so how does the situation seem to the husband’s absence from his wife and his family, or the wife’s absence from her husband, as is the case of the majority of residents in the Emirates who have to work conditions such And absence.
A question posed by «Emirates Today» to a group of Arab residents in the Emirates, and it was noticeable in the answers and feelings between women and men, as the marital nostalgia for the benefit of women came while the answers of some men came to express the state of nostalgia to “celibacy” and liberation from the burdens of life Family for some time, for the purpose of: “renewing feelings of love.”
Bad bodies
(Mitha M.) used to travel her husband repeatedly to several countries since the beginning of her marital life, where she was tempted by “reckless companionship” as she put it, by leaving her with her five children, and she expressed her feelings about this distance “my body is a cold, and the man and the woman became at home, I do with all Something, starting from connecting my children to their schools, through the purchase of the needs of the house, and ending with maintenance and carpets to repair the conditioner, and others.
As for the Lebanese (Suhaz), she has another story. She and her husband who works in the field of shipping came in order to improve their financial conditions, but the nature of her husband’s work requires him to travel continuously. She sighs, saying: “A few days pass, and sometimes for months, and I am alone with my little son, his players and care about his studies and connected him to his school and return it from them, all this alone.” Far from me, and there are no common things between us, and when I return, I feel the presence of a strange man at home, as he changes all the pattern of my life, in the few days he stays here », noting that“ I started accustomed to his absence, and today does not pass on me as if it is a year during his travel, As they heard them say. ”
Unlike (Suha), which started to get used to the absence of her husband, (Zainab.h) was her feelings different at the beginning, “I missed him, and today it was passing a year during his absence.” To satisfy himself and his arrogance that he is still a desirable young man, “stressing,” I have nothing to do with my children except through money, and I do everything that belongs to the house and it does not exist. ” And the condition of (Sawsan R) appears to be similar. Sawsan’s husband is favored by accompanying his family when he decides to travel outside the homeland, “He does not go with us, and he means another destination.”
The effect of the husband’s absence in the wife is not limited only, but it includes the children, as it touched (Umm Laila) that the character of her daughters was changed due to the absence of the father’s strict authority.
Expensive tax
“His absence is already passed by me as if it is a year.” This is what (Maryam M.), who lives in one of the Arab countries and her husband lives in the Emirates, and added, “Every day I curse the financial conditions because it is the reason for my husband’s absence from me and our children,” explaining, “If it were not for the need for Improving our financial situation when my husband was absent from his homeland and his family.
However, Juliana Sarkis, who expressed such a longing for her husband at the same heat, looked at the matter from a romantic angle that excluded the material side, as she says, “I cannot live far away from him for a moment, and the news of his travel that he is forced because of the nature of his work is one of the worst news that I hear.” But Juliana’s only consolation remains that she is a working woman.
Nostalgia, regret and conscience
It is a picture full of suffering, then, and a female consensus that only (Sherine A.) that saw that “the husbands’ distance from each other, even for a short period, renews the passion between them, and gives her a feeling of warmth again”, which is an opinion that men expressed in various ways, and if they linked him to the feeling Freedom; So (a believer. G) is waiting for his wife to go with his children to visit her family in Jordan, but he explains, “This does not mean that I do not like my wife; Rather, from time to time I miss the life of (celibacy), in which I feel my freedom. my wife”. On the other hand, (Zahir M.) said, “I feel joy in the first week of the absence of my wife and my son from me, but then I start longing for them very much.” We live as a single young man with all the meaning of this word, and then it begins remorse and longing for the mother of my children »
“I am very longing for (celibacy) days, even though my wife is still young and beautiful, but she suffocates me with her intense jealousy.” With her and her family, “he added,” But the original story is that I am with the saying that (if the cat is absent, play, “Var).
In the face of this consensus, (Munther R) completely got rid of nostalgia to the days of (celibacy) to the extent that he told us, “I hang my wife over the border, and I suffer from a state of depression when I return to the house and do not find it.” And the like (Raouf M.) who focused on his concern His children have to move away from him, learning some diplomacy, “and on my wife, of course,”, but he returned to confirm, “But this does not prevent myself from giving myself, even a simple comfort, to live in my own way and practice my hobbies that I cannot practice in the presence of my wife and children.”
